5 Sep
Peety over at peety-passion.com posted a very intelligent article on the practice of plural relationships. But what I’m thinking is… relationships are hard work. If you’re good at them, it takes a lot of effort to stay in touch with your partner’s physical/emotional/spiritual well-being and make it a priority.
If you’re bad at relationships, with more than one person to deal with, you’d be up a serious shit-creek without the proverbial paddle.
I think this is the real reason that Mormons called it off. Of course, there’s also the fact that most Christian sects don’t particularly encourage sex, so the idea of having lots and lots of sex gives them terminal heebie-jeebies. If you’re a Christian and you have lots of sex, don’t write and yell at me about this statement. But on a side note: good for you.
I don’t really mind if people want to have plural marriages. When you’re young and sexy, I think it has a certain appeal. But when you get older, wiser, and more bitter, the only advantage would seem to be having a second wife to do the dishes while you finish blogging.
The problem with relationships is that the other person is usually alive. And they can talk. That just ruins the whole thing. Why double up on that?
If and when we think about polygamy, for guys it’s that Bubba “dating twins” thing—yummm, more tits, more poon-tang–Wahoo! “The Land of Perpetual Woodies.” And never, never, ever having to skip a hunting trip to watch the kids while the little woman spends a weekend in Dallas, searching for her Inner Godess.
For women, it can’t be a sorority-sister thing, where our common bond is NOT fidelity to the sisterhood, but sharing cashmere sweaters, costly cologne and — oh, yeah — our “boyfriend.” In Mormonism there were/are “rankings” for wives, as in “This is Hilda, my first wife. You’ll be reporting to her. Your children will be secondary to her children. You’ll be doing the scut work, while she eats bonbons in my featherbed.
Wouldn’t that be like, say, having a Mom you don’t like very much and ditto for her, and you’re both (all three, four) sleeping with the same man? And bossing each other around? Maybe that was part of its entertainment value: watching “the girls” fight over you.
Looks more toward “pecking order” than relationship. I dunno… I’m just sayin’ …
I personally do not know where anyone gets the energy to be a polygamist. I find handling one relationship takes all of the extra energy I have.
I love your site and have added a link to it on my site at McCafferty’s Pub
Hmmmm….. I must now consider entering a relationship just on my loathing of doing dishes. Or I could just go on using paper and plastic products as much as possible too. It’s shit like this that keeps me awake at night yanno.
(That, and a bladder that doesn’t hold up as well as it used to.)
Good stuff here….consider yourself linked. (soon)
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no way, no how.
i got all i can handle trying to keep just ONE person from being pissed off about: the fact I leave half-drunk diet coke cans all over the house, I don’t make the bed; I’m never on time; I cuss a lot; I don’t cook; etc.
I’m exhausted just thinking about adding anything or anyone to that mix.
I’d be happy to just get one bloody bloke - I’m not greedy. Anyone having more than one can direct them over to me when they are fed up.
My God who has the energy. I have to agree with Agnes on this one, there is a shortage of men in NYC, so feel free to send any useless lumps our way